Sometimes it’s hard to remember why you married your partner. There are so many good reasons you choose for this one to be your mate for life. How can you help your marriage? Let’s learn to be thankful for what we have. In this country we have so much. Changing our thinking can help lead to a longer happier marriage.
1.If you are thinking of leaving your marriage maybe it’s time for a review of how you are thinking. If you are always noticing his/her negatives for 2 days try to change each negative into some kind of positive. So he leaves his socks all over the house, thank you for working so hard on your feet all day for your family.
Doesn’t compliment you on the dinner you worked on, ask him. What did you think of this meal?
2.Ask for what you want in your marriage. Partners are not mind readers. Some just may not think to compliment you in ways you need. So just ask for it. This doesn’t just apply to compliments. Ask for help, ask for sex, ask for what you want and remember to ask them what they need as well.
3. Take the D word out of your marriage. Divorce should not be on the table. You wanted this marriage so try to remember why you love this person. You are not ready to divorce the other person until you have exhausted all resources at your disposal. You should have had counseling for yourself, counseling for couples, and the anger at your partner should be gone. If this hasn’t happened yet you have more work to do. With divorce out of the equation then you are ready to roll up your sleeves and work on this marriage.
4. Encourage each other. If you are saying encouraging things to your partner it will make them more inclined to do the same for you. It also sets you up to see the good in your partner. Remembering why you married this one is such an asset for you in your marriage. Be encouraging.
5. Stop trying to control your partner. They are their own person. They have ideas and thoughts that are all their own. It’s actually one of the reasons you chose them. So stop trying to control them or change them and choose to see what is good in them. What can you do to help improve your marriage. The only person you control is yourself. Remember that!
Be thankful you have a partner. There are lots of single people who are wishing they had a nice partner like yours. Choose happiness!